Welcome to day 1 of my 30 Posts in 30 Days challenge. I am excited to begin what I am sure will be a challenging and rewarding roller-coaster of a journey and invite you to jump on board and join me.
However, I have two immediate obstacles in my way that I need to address. The first is that I have the motivation but not the inspiration, so what will I write? The second will be a challenge within this challenge and one I struggle with daily; how do I stay on track to completing my goal and stop my ADHD brain from derailing me.
I figured what’s a better place to start than by combining both obstacles into one post.
Five Tips for Showing ADHD You’re the Boss
A Challenge Within a Challenge
How do I manage my ADHD brain’s tendency to be sucked into a never-ending loop of overthinking and analytical questioning? What some clinicians refer to as “counterproductive excessive thinking” – revisiting the same idea repeatedly.
Another definition is what Dr. Charles Parker calls unmanageable cognitive abundance associated with ADHD. These are situations where people with ADHD become stuck in thinking that they cannot focus and attend to your intentions.
Here’s a sample of what that sounds like to the person who has ADHD. (The abridged version)
- How do I break down the barriers between thinking about writing something and writing something?
- What original idea could I write?
- Does it need to be an original idea, or should it be related to XYZ?
- I’ll need to include…
- If I include X, then I certainly need to have…
- What would others find interesting or helpful?
- Should I ask others to provide a theme?
- How many words should I set as a target? Do I need a target?
- Do I need to follow any rules or guidelines?
Are you interested in learning more? You’re in luck! Follow this link to read more about How a person with ADHD thinks.
10 Methods to Manage Your ADHD
Like most people with ADHD, I’m never satisfied with achieving a goal and constantly improving that goal. In the end, the goal is always to create, build, grow, and keep myself focused on things that work for me. This means I am constantly on a quest to remove distractions and eliminate wasted time. This means that I am continually searching for ways to help me manage my time, remove distractions, and assist me in finding that perfect balance of speed, form, function, and design, including technology, applications, as well as more traditional methods.
Here are 10 I’ve found that works for me.
- Put on your headphones to tune out any distractions.
- A clutter-free, clean, and simple environment.
- Setting Deadlines, even if they are ambiguous. Open-ended projects are not my friend.
- Work backward. Once I have a deadline, I find it easier to plan back from the goal.
- Delegate whenever possible. I understand what I am good at and when I need to seek help.
- Compartmentalize, chunk up the work into small blocks of focused time.
- Plan for your periods of downtime. E.g., Commute traffic, Dr. Appointments, or a fire drill.
- Create a network. We all need people we trust, can vent when needed, and ask for advice.
- Utilize cloud-based apps that have utility and can use across devices. E.g., ServiceNow, Salesforce, Workday, Dropbox, iCloud, Google Drive, OneNote, Evernote, Todoist, or Notion.
- Invest in a password management application.
If you’re interested in learning more ways to help you or a loved one manage ADHD, drop me a note.
Data is King
If you have ADHD, you know that data is king. It doesn’t matter how you’re living your life. If you’re not tracking what you’re doing and giving yourself a baseline on how to do it, if you’re not able to see your progress and not track where you’ve been and decide where you’re going, you simply won’t move forward. As Seth Godin said during his interview on FTN, “Forward motion is thrilling. Find a way to get forward motion.”
5 Keys to Living with Someone Who Has ADHD
- Remember that on those occasions, get the best of us; it makes us even crazier than you.
- If it’s an ADHD moment that caused us to screw up, there’s no need to remind us; we already feel beyond crap. We are horrified, humiliated, ashamed, and many others.
- Accept that we are naturally curious. We love asking questions.
- When you can help us eliminate choices, please don’t reply to questions with “I don’t know,” “Anything you want is fine,” because I can assure you it’s not okay with an ADHD person. Instead, limit the choices by reframing the question, “I’m fine with either Mexican or Chinese for dinner; you pick one.”
- Show us that you comprehend what we’ve said, and we’ve been heard. Not just “uh-huh-ing,” or “okay,” if we don’t feel like we are being heard that we can’t let it go and move on to the next point and will simply repeat it.
Well, that’s about it. Almost.
Always keep a notebook or notebook app near you. Making a list and checking them off is rewarding and helps us keep our ADHD brain at ease.
Learning to use your new powers isn’t going to be easy; it will take a lot of vigorous work and disciplined focus on your part, but I believe you’ll find its worth the effort. There are two quotes I’d like to leave you with that I feel summarize these sentiments.
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” — Joshua J. Marine.”
“The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.” ~ Vidal Sassoon
Never Stop Working
Okay, that is it; day 1 is in the books. Now to plan for day two.